When we want to help ourselves or another, the thing that we must allow unlimited supply of is LOVE. We simply cannot allow enough love. It must soak us, keep falling over us like rain, soft and gentle. It must never stop.
But, don’t assume you know what form love will take. For most of us, Love is a stranger, an unfamiliar state of being, an energy we don’t quite recognize. That’s because what we have been taught about Love and the examples and models we have been given of Love have had very little to do with Love. They have more to do with bartering – If I give you this, you should give me that. In other words, it is conditional.
Of course, most of us will adamantly deny that this is what we do. But if you were to honestly examine your relationship with yourself and with others, you will see how easy it is for you to feel disappointed, let down, betrayed. That’s because you have always held expectations of yourself and others. These expectations are almost always expectations that arise from conditions that we have placed in our relationships.
On the rare occasions that we may have felt Love, it may have been so exhilarating that we might have even been afraid of it, frightened off it by our old habits of fear and distrust. At other times, we may have interpreted it as harshness or inflexibility because we did not get our way, which is really our conditioned or Ego self that did not get its way. The Ego is unable to recognize or experience Love. It is only when we have stepped out of the Ego’s world are we able to experience Love. In fact, that is when we return to our natural state of Love.
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